You came into this world as a ten with a high level of self confidence, self esteem and self respect. You are a miracle. You are one of over 40 million sperms to survive. You are here for a reason. You had courage and self confidence when you were young. What happened?

You got exposed to the outside world and let a lot of negativity, doubt and fear enter your life. By letting the outside come inside, you have created yourself as you are. You have lowered you self confidence by letting the outside in. You are not only the most important person in the world, but you are also your greatest enemy, by allowing your self confidence to diminish.

You have created your own fears, doubts, limitations and barriers. You have created who you are and only you can renew you and increase your level of self confidence.. It is time for your to do a review on your life, and remove those destructive beliefs within. Your self confidence could be higher than what it is simply by removing some of the negative baggage that you are carrying around and replacing it with some positive actions. Actions that build self confidence, not destroy it.

What do you, and most of the population in the world do when they fail? Right, they beat themselves up. They criticize themselves and in the process lower their self confidence, self esteem and self respect.

We all know that you have the right to fail. You also know that you have to fail often to succeed. You also know that success comes from good judgement. Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from doing things, and most importantly from failing and learning from those failures.

Why not use this to increase self confidence instead of destroying self confidence.

However, society has lost track of the benefits of failing and the lessons learned when one fails. Instead of recognizing the good with get out of failure, which can be used to build our self confidence, we end up being critical of ourselves and destroying our self confidence.

Self confidence is your level of belief in yourself. If you do not believe in you, will anyone else believe in you. Stop being critical of yourself and start doing the opposite of what you have been doing. That is if you want to build your self confidence.

When you fail, accept that. However, don’t be critical. It takes less energy to find a lesson learned than to be critical. Once you have found the lesson learned, congratulate yourself and tap yourself on the shoulder for having the courage for trying something your never did before. This simple act will build your self confidence. As you build your self confidence, your courage will return.

Give yourself permission to have at least ten learning opportunities a day. That means permission to fail ten times a day. Then you can congratulate yourself by tapping yourself on the shoulder and build your self confidence more often during the day.

The Bottom Line – You have to fail often to succeed once. How your react to failure is under your control. Why not react in a positive manner and build up your self confidence instead of being self critical and lowering your self confidence. The higher your level self-confidence, without it going to your head, the higher your level of courage will be.