Of
course, many people make New Year's resolutions… but how many
of them actually keep them? According to one study, 23% of resolutions
fade away within the first 7 days. But don't let that stop you!
The following are 10 of our most effective ways to not only create
resolutions, but also help you turn them into reality...
1)
First, Take This Simple Test to find out just how serious you are
about reaching your goals. If you can't get past this first step,
don't just go through the motions because you're "supposed
to" make resolutions for New Year's – you're likely to
fail. Instead, stop and ask yourself, "What goal is worthy
of my time and effort and would be exciting and motivating for me
to work toward?"
Next, schedule a 15-minute appointment with yourself
and answer these 4 foundational questions:
1. "Which of my goals did I accomplish in 2004?" (You
did have goals, didn't you?)
2. "Could I (or should I) have done more? If so, why didn't
I?" (Now's not the time to be easy on yourself…)
3. "Have I set specific, measurable goals for 2005? If not,
by what date will I do so?"
4. "How will I apply what I learned last year into 2005 to
make the biggest difference in my life?"
Fact is, most people won't answer these questions.
Why? Human inertia: that powerful, life-wasting force that stops
many of us from realizing our life's potential. So how do you break
through? Take baby steps! Here's how...
Step 1: Right now, cut and paste the 4 questions
above into an empty document. Congratulations… you've accomplished
step 1.
Step 2: Schedule 15 minutes right now when you'll
type your answers to those questions in that same document.
The mere act of taking Step 1 can help push you
past the human inertia that may have been shackling you in years
past. It's a simple technique called "chunking down,"
or "Swiss cheesing"... reducing tasks into bite-sized,
manageable pieces. Taking Step 2 puts a process in place that helps
keep you moving forward. Make sure every action plan ends with a
step that requires further action!
Now, follow these time-tested ways to keep the momentum
going...
2)
Restructure! Most resolutions don't work because they're no more
than wishful thinking… fluff and no more. First, change the
verbal structure of your resolutions: Don't say, "I'll go to
the gym and lose weight." Instead say, "I'll join the
gym tomorrow at noon… exercise three times a week... lose
20 pounds... and once again fit into these old jeans." Assigning
dates and numbers gives your goals substance, making them real and
reachable.
3)
Simplify! The Queen Mary weighs over 81,000 tons – nearly
35,000 tons heavier than the Titanic. Yet the rudder – the
part that ultimately determines the direction in which the entire
massive ship moves – weighs "just" 140 tons. Compared
to the rest of the ship, the rudder is small! But to everyone on
board, it's the most important part of all. Ask yourself, "What
is the ‘rudder' of my resolutions? What's that one thing that
makes all the difference?"
For example, let's say you want to write a book
containing the world's best chocolate recipes. (Yum!) A million
things need to be done to make it happen, including research...
learning to write a query letter... deciding whether or not to hire
a literary agent... determining which publishers might be most interested...
learning how to format your manuscript... how to get publicity for
your finished book to drive buyers to bookstores... and much more.
Overwhelming, isn't it?
Instead, find the "rudder" and simplify!
In this example, that all-important "rudder" is the very
act of sitting down at your computer and starting to write! Say,
"I will sit down every day for at least 30 minutes and write
at least 500 words." Type some topic ideas. Write the first
sentence... first paragraph... first page... whatever! It's getting
yourself writing that will ultimately produce a finished book with
your name on the front cover!
4)
Focus on Your Vision – The rest of your life will be shaped
by your current vision of your future. Establish a powerful picture
of how you want to think, feel, act, and live three years from now.
Constantly refer to this vision to guide all your 2005 decisions,
goals, actions, and communications. This puts YOU in the driver's
seat rather than the "fickle winds of fate."
5)
Recognize the Value of Rest – Just as you can't start a car
with a dead battery, you also can't think creatively with an exhausted
body and mind. A tired body's instinctive goal is relaxation and
sleep. Everything else, besides survival itself, is secondary. Listen
to your body... give it the rest (and play) it needs to recharge
itself... then dive back into your work refreshed. You'll get more
done in less time... and have more fun, too.
6)
Clean Up Your Life – Messy desks at work… unorganized
kitchens at home... overstuffed garages... and lots of loose ends
that need tying. All these things pull your attention away from
your goals... drain your energy... and chip away at your self-esteem.
Make a list of what needs "clean-up." Do at least one
each day, if for no other reason than to have a weekend that's yours
to spend as frivolously as you wish!
7)
Delegate and Win – You can't do it all yourself. Admit it.
Even if you could, others may be able to do it better, which ultimately
benefits you. Don't be afraid to "buy it done." Stop letting
nagging tasks slow your progress! If it's been on your to-do list
for weeks... delegate it and get that aspect of the project moving!
8)
Learn More, Earn More – Feel frustrated at work? Perhaps you've
gone as far as you can go with current capabilities. It's time to
learn more... develop new capabilities... and take the next step.
What could you do in your present job (or a completely different
one) if you knew twice as much as you do now? Interesting, isn't
it?
9)
Know Your Own Strengths –Your first question in any endeavor
shouldn't be, "What can I do differently?" but "What
can I do better using my present talents and abilities?" By
focusing first on what you do best, you plan from a position of
strength and think in areas that are most familiar to you. Bottom
line: You don't have to change everything! You simply have to channel
your strengths in other directions.
10)
Take Charge of Your Attitude – Do you start your day in neutral?
In other words, when you wake up, is your attitude poised to respond
to whatever situations occur to you, or do you consciously determine
your mindset? Each of us becomes a victim of circumstances –
and other people's moods – when we start in neutral. Our mood
(and the resulting entire day) is then shaped by the ping-ponging
back and forth between some people's good moods and other's lousy
ones. Force yourself for just one day to see the positive side in
things, no matter how small. The effect snowballs. Read the books,
"Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude" by W. Clement
Stone, and "The Magic of Thinking Big" by David Schwartz.
You won't believe how the change positively impacts your energy,
health, effectiveness, and the attitudes of those around you!
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